Children amaze me. They really do. They come into this world not knowing anything and within months of being outside the womb they gain a wealth of knowledge. From the moment they are born they are observing their surroundings and awaiting to explore. One thing that I have surely experienced first hand is to never underestimate children. From the moment they are born, to adulthood and beyond they continue their pattern and remain observant of their surroundings. In a nutshell never think they aren’t looking to see what you are doing, how you handle situations, and how you react in different scenarios. Knowing this, as a parent you must be aware, loving and consistent when dealing with your children.
Being Aware- Be aware of who is listening and watching you. Children watch how their parents act toward people and mimic their behavior. Your habits and doings are subconsciously influencing your children. I would caution every parent to be careful of the things you watch, listen too, and expose your children too.
Personal Experience: I have argued with my husband in front of our children. I have yelled and have seen how that has affected my children. Yelling is done out of frustration. It never gets a point across in a better way. It doesn’t validate what you are saying it only scares people and makes your children think that yelling is a healthy form of communication.
Being Loving- In everything you do be loving. Yes, you can even discipline in a loving way. As adults we don’t like it when people speak rudely toward us, call us names, or look down on us– neither do children. Just because they are children doesn’t veto them as being human beings. They need to know that in spite of anything they are loved and cared about. Disciplining out of love is not done out of anger but instead is done with the goal of correcting your child’s behavior.
Note: After I have discipline my child I let them know that in spite of what they have done or how they are acting I love them no less.
Being Consistent- Consistency is key. Consistency is key. Consistency is key. Be consistent when it comes to your children! It is often said that consistency is key to success– I would say being consistent with your children leads to a healthy relationship because your child gains trust. Being consistent isn’t always easy but is necessary. Kids don’t miss a beat, and seldom forget something you said you were going to do! Make sure you follow through even when it is easier to put it off!
Are you intentionally being aware, loving and consistent? Are there any tools you use in helping you succeed at these things?