Take a minute and really think about what I’m about to ask you.
Are you rooting for your friends? Are you happy in their successes?
I know your first, off the top of your head response would be– of course! Who wouldn’t want their friends to succeed and do well, right?!
Has your friend ever told you something good that is happening and your response is excitement but inside you are questioning how, and why not you? I would say most people have done this… I have done this. I have struggled with being genuinely happy without any reservation for the people in my life. It is not a good place to be, it is jealousy. Sure you might not vocalize how you feel, but that doesn’t change your mindset.
Here are some suggestions that can help you get out of having a jealous mindset.
1. Find your Purpose– Everyone needs a purpose. What do you want to do with your life? What are your goals? What do need to change in your life to accomplish your goals? It is easy to get in a jealous state of mind if you aren’t focused on using the skills and talent God gave you. Focus on bettering yourself and pray that God continues to guide you.
2. Stay off Social Media– If you are mentally and emotionally not in a good head space then social media is not the place for you. Social media contains all things happy, glitz, and glamour. It is the places where people share their successes, love, and adventures. It will have you wishing you were someone else– living their life instead of focusing on the life God gave you!!
3. Surround yourself around Encouragers– Encouragement goes such a long way. The words we speak into others will help them soar or cause them to never try. Most people would have not accomplished what they have without someone speaking words of affirmation. If you don’t have an encourager that lives with you (spouse, parent, friend) find a person you can call and be honest with. Someone who will speak life into you!
Let us all remember that we are in this together! We all have many different hats to wear. We are wives, mothers, daughters, sisters, and friends. Let us all strive to be emotionally grounded so we can be a source of encouragement to the people in our lives!