This past Memorial weekend my husband and I had the pleasure of attending Central Pointe Church of Christ marriage retreat. This retreat, the presenters, and being around like minded couples blessed our marriage. It was great to have alone time with my man. I thoroughly enjoyed every part of the weekend and am looking forward to the next time my husband and I can slip away!!
The theme of the retreat was The Love Boat!! We went to Sportsmanship Cove, Companionship Bay, Hardship Island, Leadership Lake, and Championship Rock. I want to share the tools Victor and Shay Cathey who presented from Sportsmanship Cove shared with us. They were phenomenal! They used football fouls and compared them to marriage fouls. I feel like this information will truly bless your marriage. In marriage we will have hardships, you don’t agree and will argue, but you must continue to be aware of the power of your tongue and actions.
- Foul: False start
- Football: Offensive movement before the ball is snapped.
- Marriage: Making judgment and/or taking action before gathering all the facts.
- Foul: Delay of game
- Football: Intentionally impeding the natural progress of the game.
- Marriage: Not moving beyond the mistakes; not forgiving; withholding affection.
- Personal foul
- Football: An illegal, flagrant foul considered risky to the health of another player.
- Marriage: Comments “below the belt” that are harmful to the other’s self esteem.
- Pass interference
- Football: Preventing a player from securing their rightful position on the ball.
- Marriage: Preventing one spouse from presenting their side by interrupting or walking out.
- Foul: Hands to the face
- Football: Illegal touching of another player’s face mask with the hands.
- Marriage: Physical Abuse.
- Foul: Illegal formation
- Football: Having too few players on the line of scrimmage or players out of position
- Marriage: Leaving God out of your marriage.
How do we rebound after the fouls and start again?
- Call a Timeout– Stop the argument. Take a walk. Meditate and pray asking for clarity on the issue.
- Huddle Up– Get together. Come together to talk through the issue.
- Develop a Game Plan– The problem can likely be solved if you work together to find a solution.
- Execute the Plan– Commit to doing what it takes to remedy the situation.
- Have Fun and Go Score!– Love your spouse enough to work through the difficulties. And, then celebrate the victory!
“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ, God forgave you.” — Ephesians 4:32
These well thought out marriage fouls and tools on how to rebound after the fouls were presented by the Catheys so well! The Catheys are over the Marriage Ministry at Central Pointe Church of Christ. Please email Shay Cathey if you are interested in having them present and bless you.
Her email is firstname.lastname@example.org!
I definitely struggle with Delay of game! I’m a work in progress y’all. What foul are you guilty of committing?